ABSTRACT
This chapter presents some reflections on the complexity of the subjectivisation process in adoptive families, where all members have experienced traumas that marked a break in their continuity of being. The new adoptive family should be able to build a new affective plot, an intersubjective psychic space that can contain the child's experience of loss of continuity and loss of ties with his biological parents and his origins, and or the lack of an internal image of his biological parents. The chapter shows how the parents' difficulty in integrating the boy’s diversity and the emergence of a sense of foreignness has created obstacles to a mutual recognition and to the establishment of a subjectivising function in the family. It focuses on the situations where after adoption an apparently positive and harmonious climate is formed. A subjectivising bond needs to lean on a facilitating bond with the other that allows for differentiation.
