ABSTRACT

First published in 2000. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.

part |2 pages

PART I Looking Back

chapter 1|13 pages

Were You in an Abusive Relationship?

I’d heard a lot

chapter |1 pages

Abusive Behaviors Inventory

chapter 2|13 pages

Are You Out of Danger Now?

He said if I left

chapter |2 pages

Assessing Your Risk

chapter |2 pages

Assessing Your Risk: 1 month later

chapter 3|7 pages

How Could This Have Happened?

I never imagined

chapter |2 pages

What You Heard Growing Up

chapter 4|11 pages

The Hidden Horror: Sexual Abuse

My family knew I was so embarrassed

chapter |2 pages

Isolation

chapter |1 pages

Self-Talk

part |2 pages

Part II NOW

chapter 5|6 pages

Do You Still Love Him?

He put me through hell.

chapter |1 pages

Why You loved Him

chapter 6|2 pages

Losing Your Partner, Your Dream, Your Life

I knew

chapter |8 pages

Your Lost Sexual Feeling

chapter |2 pages

Expressing Your Feelings

chapter 7|6 pages

When Feelings Overwhelm You

I feel so bad

chapter |6 pages

Depression

chapter |6 pages

Assessing Your Feelings: Week One

chapter 8|2 pages

Signs of Unfinished Healing

It’s been six months

chapter |7 pages

Emotional Signs: Self-Esteem

chapter |2 pages

Is the Negative Talk Yours?

chapter 9|3 pages

Managing Your Stress

I fell strung so tight

chapter |20 pages

Stress and Your Body

chapter 10|15 pages

What About the Children?

He was never violent

chapter |2 pages

Child Assessment

chapter 11|3 pages

The Reactions of Others

Everyone couldn’t stop

chapter |1 pages

Those Who Blamed You

chapter |7 pages

Those Who Did Not Know How to Help

chapter |2 pages

Evaluating Your Relationships

part |2 pages

PART III Looking Forward

chapter 12|3 pages

Practical Considerations

After I left,

chapter |5 pages

Court Proceedings

chapter |3 pages

Reestablishing Credit

chapter |4 pages

How Much Money Do You Need to Survive?

chapter 13|5 pages

Beginning to Heal

I didn’t realize

chapter |5 pages

Moderate or Severe Depression

chapter |3 pages

Do You Need Professional Help? (I)

chapter 14|4 pages

Believing in Yourself

For so long

chapter |3 pages

When It’s Not Your Abuser’s Voice

chapter |3 pages

Who Are You? (I)

chapter |3 pages

Who Are You? (II): 1 month later

chapter 15|3 pages

The Temptation to Go Back

My family

chapter |6 pages

Remembering Why You Left

chapter |1 pages

Considering Your Options

chapter 16|6 pages

Is He Still in Your Life?

Once I left,

chapter |1 pages

Refuse to Be Controlled by Him

chapter |2 pages

Planning Ahead for Contact

chapter 17|4 pages

Loving Again

I’m afraid

chapter |1 pages

Monopolizing You

chapter |4 pages

Isolating You

chapter |1 pages

What to Look For and What to Avoid

chapter |2 pages

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chapter |4 pages

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