THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN EMPATHY AND FORGIVENESS IN ADOLESCENT WHO HAVE A CHEATING PARENT

. This study aims to determine the relationship between empathy and forgiveness in adolescents whose parents have an affair. This study uses quantitative research methods. The sampling technique used in this research is snowball sampling. The sample in this study consisted of 55 adolescents. The measurement of forgiveness data was carried out using a modified forgiveness scale from McCullough, Root, & Cohen (1999). Measurement of empathy was carried out using a modified empathy scale from Davis (1983). The data analysis technique used is Pearson Product Moment correlation analysis technique. Based on the results of the analysis, it is known that there is a very significant positive relationship between empathy and forgiveness in adolescents whose parents have an affair with a significance value of 0.002 (p<0.01). These results indicate that the hypothesis that there is a relationship between empathy and forgiveness in adolescents who have cheating parents is acceptable. Furthermore, the relationship has a positive direction, that is, the higher the level of empathy, the higher the level of forgiveness (forgiveness). Conversely, the lower the level of empathy, the lower the forgiveness.


INTRODUCTION
Parents are figures that are imitated by teenagers, should parents have a good personality regarding attitudes, habits, behavior and ways of life.A complete family, according to (Cho & Lee, 2017) will publish the widest opportunity for individuals in it to receive the basics of development, practice good attitudes and habits.Family harmony will also provide a sense of security for teenagers to be able to develop naturally in accepting social experiences for living together in society.
Unfortunately at this time teenagers have many problems.One of the worrying problems experienced is when teenagers find out their parents are having an affair.
Infidelity committed by parents is one of the phenomenal cases that is often raised by print and electronic media.
Parental infidelity can affect the socioemotional aspects of adolescents as well as adolescent maturity in logical and rational thinking.When teenagers find out their parents are having an affair, they will experience feelings of deep sadness, anger, disappointment, or feeling neglected.In addition, infidelity can also have a direct impact on the relationship between parents and children.Parents become irritable or do not have time with their children.The greater the change in the condition of the parent-child relationship, the more it will affect the child's socio-emotional condition in a negative direction (Houser, List, Piovesan, Samek, & Winter, 2016).
The most damaging impact of infidelity is the psychological effect on children.In these situations, children tend to experience mental burdens.In children who have not been able to express their emotions, children will show symptoms of anxiety.For example, being alone, bedwetting, thumb sucking, nightmares, and unstable emotions.This appears as a response to fear that his family's happiness will disappear (Turner, Finkelhor, Hamby, & Henly, 2017).
Meanwhile, children who are growing up (teenagers), will feel angry, betrayed, and more likely to express their frustration.
Child and family psychologist, (Heyman, Fu, Lin, Qian, & Lee, 2015) explains that when children catch their parents' infidelity directly, the child will be confused.Another effect is a decrease in learning achievement, reduced self-confidence, depression, and being rude.
One of the things that can be used to reduce the bad impact for teenagers who know their parents are having an affair is that they can do forgiveness.Having an attitude of forgiveness or pardon in children, especially teenagers, is not easy, not all children are capable of forgiveness towards their parents.
Forgiveness is a process (or result of a process) that involves changing feelings and attitudes toward the offender.A number of studies view it as an intentional and deliberate process, driven by a decision to forgive.The result of this process is a decrease in the urge to maintain feelings of demands for the release of negative emotions to the perpetrator (Cuff, Brown, Taylor, & Howat, 2016).

Research Objectives
The purpose of this study was to examine the relationship between empathy and forgiveness in adolescents whose Parent parents cheated on them.

Forgiveness
According to (Amir, Ahl, Parsons, & McAuliffe, 2021), forgiveness is an effort to restore love and trust in relationships, so that individuals can end destructive rights.This is also reinforced by (Breen, Kashdan, Lenser, & Fincham, 2010), that behavior forgiveness is an action as an attempt by a person not to retaliate against hurting others for what he has done, but to provide forgiveness.According to (Hargrave & Zasowski, 2016) said forgiveness is healing from memory hurt, not erase.Forgiveness is also interpreted as a way to overcome relationships with the damaged one.

Dimensions of Forgiveness
The following are three dimensions of forgiveness according to McCullough, Root, and Cohen (2006)

Research Hypothesis
Based on the relationship between the variables mentioned above, in this study the authors formulate the following hypothesis, that there is a positive relationship between empathy and forgiveness in adolescents who have cheating parents.The higher the empathy, the higher the forgiveness and vice versa, the lower the empathy, the lower the forgiveness.

Data Analysis Techniques
The method used to analyze the data in this study is statistical analysis.The  Note: the item marked (*) is the item that has failed.

Reliability Test
To determine the consistency of this measuring instrument, the researcher conducted a reliability test using Alpha Cronbach technique.general agreement is that reliability is considered satisfactory if the coefficient value is 0.700.

1) Scale Forgiveness
Based on the results of the scale reliability test, forgiveness after processing the data, a reliability coefficient of 0.920 was obtained and was considered reliable in measuring the scale forgiveness in this study.

Discussion
The results of this study show that there is a very significant positive relationship between empathy and forgiveness in adolescents who have cheating parents.The results of previous research from (Drigas & Papoutsi, 2018) also found that there was a significant positive relationship between empathy and forgiveness.The higher a person's empathy, the higher the emergence of behavior forgiveness adolescent towards their parents.This is also supported by previous research conducted by (Ayun & Puspitawati, 2018) who found the results of this study showing that there is a very significant positive relationship between empathy and forgiveness, that empathy is positively and significantly correlated with forgiving parents.
Stated that the age of adolescence greatly affects the process of forgiveness because at the age of adolescence the individual's emotional state is still not stable.(Renz et al., 2020)  Stated that women express higher levels of empathy than men, this is due to either genetic differences or differences in socialization experiences.Women are more likely to be aware of their emotions than men, share more appreciation and want to maintain interpersonal relationships with others.Next, this study shows that forgiveness women'sis higher than that of men.This study shows the same results as the research conducted.Based on the results of this study, men and women have significant differences in forgiveness.
Women have forgiveness higher than men.
technique used in this research is the correlation analysis Product Moment from Karl Pearson, which is to analyze the relationship between empathy as the independent variable and forgiveness as Parent the dependent variable.Data analysis was carried out using the Statistical Package for Social Science (SPSS) version 24.the validity estimated through testing the feasibility of the test content through rational analysis by expert judgment, namely the researcher consults with the supervisor before distributing the questionnaire.In order to strengthen the results of item validity, the researchers conducted a try out after the test and were selected through expert judgment.Researchers used a trial using a used try out to determine the value of reliability.The test consists of 18 items on a scale forgiveness and 28 items on an empathy scale with five alternative answers.correlating each item score with a score total items.The number of forgiveness items tested was 18 items, the results of a good item analysis had 0.30.The results of the analysis, it is known that all good items are 18 items and are in the correlation range between 0.425 to 0.730 which means that the item discrimination power is good.
With a correlation coefficient of 0.383 with a significance value of 0.002.The hypothesis testing of this research shows that the hypothesis is accepted.This means that the higher the empathy for adolescents who have cheating parents, the higher the forgiveness for what they have experienced.In building empathy, teensstart by being open with their own emotions.In line with the opinion according to(Drigas & Papoutsi, 2018) empathy is built based on self-awareness, the more open a person is to his own emotions, the more skilled he is in reading feelings.Every relationship that is at the root of caring stems from emotional adjustment, from the ability to empathize, that is, the ability to know how the other person is feeling and participate in the struggles of his life.Adolescents who have good empathy will influence adolescents to forgive someone for their wrong treatment.
adds that the age factor has a significant influence on forgiveness that affects cognition and behavior.Adolescents have reasoning about forgiveness different from children and adults and thus forgiveness is conceptualized as a cognitive development process.This is in line with the results of the calculation of mean empirical categorization forgiveness 12-15 based on age, youth aged years of 73 are in the high category, adolescents aged 16-19 years of 79.6 are in the high category and adolescents of 20-23 years of 76, 80 are in the high category.Meanwhile, the mean of empirical empathy categorization based on age, adolescents aged 12-15 years of 73.5 are in the very high category, adolescents aged 16-19 years of 68.4 are in the very high category and adolescents of 20-23 years of 71.34 is in the very high category.

Table 1 .
Distribution of Forgiveness

Table 2 .
Distribution of Empathy Scale

Table 3 .
Reliability of the Forgiveness Scale
Based on the results of the description of the research variables, it is known that the empirical mean value of forgiveness is 77.03 which means it is in the high category and the empirical mean of empathy is 20.81 which means it is in the very high category.This shows that respondents are able to do forgiveness because they have a good level of empathy.