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The chapter focuses on understanding how communication behaviour relates to constructing happiness and wellbeing. Today, we are passing through a period that is full of doubts, challenges, uncertainty, and relationship problems. We try our best to meet these challenges through various means, including communication skills. Communication skills are the tools that can enhance happiness and wellbeing. The chapter includes communication basics, ancient heritage for communication principles, myths about communication, happiness and wellbeing, gratitude, optimism, kindness, forgiveness, relationship, etc. Communication skills are very powerful tools through which we can make miracles in our lives. It is a boon given to human beings for making our lives easier. Every word spoken by us is interpreted by others, and based on their perceptions, they try to derive meaning. So, we must be very careful in using the proper words. The chapter describes the right style of communication and not giving others a chance to others to misunderstand or misinterpret. Certain communication behaviours are very much culture-based, so we should always honour the local cultural norms. The chapter describes how to start with very small activities like wishing, appreciating, and encouraging others by using simple words which are loaded with emotions and feelings. Thus, if we wish to be happy, we should try to make others happy.
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Giri, V.N. (2023). Communication, Happiness, and Wellbeing. In: Chetri, S., Dutta, T., Mandal, M.K., Patnaik, P. (eds) Handbook of Happiness. Springer, Singapore. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-981-99-2637-4_19
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