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In this chapter I explore how gratitude develops, and how gratitude may be cultivated. Several studies show that with increasing age children develop a more differentiated and socially sophisticated understanding of gratitude. I then review studies supporting the notion that gratitude is good for children. Another developmental issue that is likely to impact the development of gratitude is attachment behaviors. Several studies support that theory that secure attachment fosters the development of healthy gratitude. After a brief discussion regarding life events that might impact the development of gratitude, I turn to an exploration of how gratitude can be cultivated in children. Three parenting styles have been proposed as important to emotional development, and more specifically to gratitude development. Very little evidence however, supports these parenting practices to date. Finally I describe two studies that suggest that gratitude can be trained in children, and this training appears to positively impact well-being. Because of the dearth of research and the importance of the question, I argue that research on the development of gratitude is of primary importance.
Gratitude is a fruit of great cultivation.
–Samuel Johnson
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Watkins, P.C. (2014). How Does Gratitude Develop?. In: Gratitude and the Good Life. Springer, Dordrecht. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-94-007-7253-3_11
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