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Research has demonstrated the benefits of mindfulness interventions with individuals, including connections to increased life satisfaction, and positive affect. Mindfulness has effectively treated anxiety, borderline personality disorder, depression, chronic pain, and addiction. Recent studies show the positive effects of mindfulness on relationship satisfaction, empathy development, and skillful communication. We explore the potential benefits for integrating mindfulness, defined as nonjudgmental awareness, into the practice of marriage and family therapy. We argue that mindfulness may be useful with couples and families to improve communication, emotional regulation, empathy, and relationship well-being. Finally, we discuss practical ways of applying mindfulness in family therapy.
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Gambrel, L.E., Keeling, M.L. Relational Aspects of Mindfulness: Implications for the Practice of Marriage and Family Therapy. Contemp Fam Ther 32, 412–426 (2010). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10591-010-9129-z
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